Hi there,
The only thing guaranteed in life is change. There will be welcomed change and very uncomfortable change. Those that have grown through seasons of change know that resisting unwelcomed change can cause suffering and uncertainty.
Our brain doesn't like change, it views any kind of change as a threat to our safety. It will try its best to have us stay where we are based out of fear. But when you understand how your brain works and how you make decisions, you can get through any kind of change and dictate what result you want out of it. Even when it wasn't planned, and yes even when it doesn't feel good.
Take, for example, a relationship. When I work with clients who are going through a divorce or breakup, many times they are unwilling to accept that circumstance. They become obsessed with trying to keep things the same. Obsessed with avoiding the pain and rejection. Their A-line is being completely driven by fear. They forget to work in the T-line and the result is always something that they don't want, it's what they were trying to avoid most.
This happens because most of us don't realize that we have a choice. We just get to decide if we want to feel rejection (or any other feeling) and we also get to decide what we make it mean or not mean about ourselves.
When we can come to terms with acceptance of rejection or any kind of change in our lives and we become willing to FEEL it, then its something we can get through powerfully.
Notice I said powerfully. That's because when our minds are managed even when we are going through intense change, we still get to control our experience.
If you are going through any kind of change in your life, ask yourself, "How could this be the best thing that ever happened to me?"
See what direction that question takes your brain to. It removes the boulder of fear right in front of it and focuses on possibility.
That's what I want for you. That my friend is the art of possibility. It's available at any time, at any age, and with any circumstance.