but only to keep you safe.
Hi there,
Yes, it’s true. Your brain lies.
When I first started doing this work “coaching” I wondered why people talked about their brain in the third person- as in they would say “I know it’s not true…but my brain is saying this….” WHAT?! I was confused, like aren’t you YOUR brain?! and I thought they were weird too, but hear me out.
I’m sure you’re not new to the concept of “Your thoughts create your results” but have you really thought about how that works? Especially if you are new to thought work, it’s not as simple as it seems.
You may think if i all I have to do is think something else and then I can create ANY RESULT I want?! SIGN ME UP and “sure- let me just change my thoughts,” but here’s the thing- your brain operates like a computer and depending on how old you are it could be stuck all the way backkkkkkk in the 80, 70, 60s .. you see where I’m going with this?
Our patterns and beliefs about ourselves (our self-concept) are formed during our childhood (between the ages of 2-12). So in order for us to change our thoughts about something we have to actually have those thoughts in our BELIEF system otherwise they won't’ stick…
So if you just try on thoughts with no belief work behind them, at the first sign of negotiation or wavering because it’s not working “fast enough” or we are “afraid of failure” –poof–instantly our brain opts out and tells you all the reasons why it won’t work for you and throws the life jacket in to pull you back to safety…
And don't even get me started on safety–we will need a whole other email for that. But just Imagine this little caveman inside your brain calling the show.
Hearing what you want to do and OUT OF FEAR it tells you all the things you cannot do.
It screams at you and shows you what you've done in the past and how you failed before and laughs at you for even considering what you are about to do next.
That little thing in there wants to keep everything the same because it wants to keep you safe.
Any sign of change is viewed as dangerous and so it will feed you lies about what you can do to STOP you before you EVEN BEGIN TO TRY. (think back to your biggest goal and how long you’ve been THINKING about it without any actual action…”
Listen, our brains are still wired in a primitive state--that means it will do everything it can to stop us from becoming who we want to become UNLESS we CHALLENGE it.
We re-wire our thoughts, beliefs, self-concepts and pair them together with expectancy to FUEL RESULTS.
It’s not easy, but it will be the work of you lifetime.